Thursday, February 5, 2009

Accepting Uncertainty

My future sister-in-law recommended an extremely moving book to me called Forever Lily by Beth Nonte Russell. This personal memoir is about an unexpected mother's journey to adoption in China. Filled with emotional turmoil and unique circumstances, the author writes about topics that we can all relate to from our own journeys in life.

Although I am not a mother or have any plans to adopt a child, the memoir included philosophical annotations and thought-provoking questions regarding acceptance, faith, uncertainty and rejection, which are things everyone can relate to. Readers can identify with Russell's emotional struggles and extraordinary situations

Excerpt from Forever Lily:

Ambiguity is one of the most difficult things to tolerate, and the intolerance leads to poor choices. Not knowing, not knowing how something will turn out, leads to impatience for an outcome. The impatience then results in one of two actions: either a resolution is forced, or there is a move to retreat, to give up. Either way, the result cannot be optimal, for in every situation, a process is working, an intricate, complex process, which has as its goal the highest outcome, the good of the whole, which we cannot easily see or grasp. The ability to allow the process to work can be called faith, and this faith is not a belief, this faith is not passive. The self-descipline needed to overcome the anxiety of ambiguity takes enormous effort to sustain.

The truth is that every single moment of every single life is uncertain. We go to great lengths to deny this, so much do we crave the illusion of security. True power lies in accepting the fact that everything is uncertain in every moment; it is the truth, and it is where our freedom lies. A small shift in thinking, a slight willingness to admit the possibility, and one can see that if everything is uncertain, then anything is possible.

I will remember this throughout all my personal journeys in life --- whether I'm coping with love, family, work or all the little speed bumps life has to offer. Thanks for sharing this book with me Rosario!

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